The past few days I have been thinking a lot about things I can control and things I can’t control. I know that I feel so much better when I’m in control: in control of what I’m eating, my activity, my schedule. But you can’t always control everything! This is a fact of life. Life happens and sometimes you just have to roll with it.
I feel happiest and most in control when:
- I’m eating clean and making good decisions with food – decisions I feel like I can shout from the rooftops because I’m so proud of them.
- I’m getting exercise on a regular basis
- My kitchen is full of healthy food
- My kitchen is clean and lends itself to a happy cooking environment
- I’m taking the time to plan my meals in advance
- I am organized with the tasks I need to complete
I feel out of control when:
- My kitchen is bare
- My kitchen is messy
- My meals aren’t prepped
- The weather forces me to stay inside and I can’t run, go the the gym, etc…and just generally feel stir crazy
- My injuries prevent me from exercising the way I would prefer to exercise
- I’m in social situations where other people are indulging
- I indulge or make a bad food-related decision and then feel guilty for it
In the above list, there are things I can control and things I can’t control. Let’s take another look at my list:
- My kitchen is bare. This means that I need to make it a priority to stock my kitchen.
- My kitchen is messy. I can easily avoid this issue by taking a few minutes in the morning to loading and unloading the dishwasher, and wipe down my counters.
- My meals aren’t prepped. I need to make it a priority to wake up early and cook my food for the day.
- The weather forces me to stay inside and I can’t run, go the the gym, etc…and just generally feel stir crazy. Not much I can control about this one, right? Mother Nature is certainly the boss sometimes. However, I can do positive things such as: reading a book, prepping meals/looking up recipes, spend time communicating & helping others reach their health and fitness goals.
- My injuries prevent me from exercising the way I would prefer to exercise. Something I definitely cannot control, and an issue I have run into all too much lately. The only thing I can do is work around the injury & let it heal, so I can come back stronger than ever!
- I’m in social situations where other people are indulging. I can’t control what others eat; I can only control what I eat. I need to realize that I am the only one who chooses what goes in my body and will make my food choices based on what I want to eat and not on what anyone else is eating. I want to feel proud of my decisions.
- I indulge or make a bad food-related decision and then feel guilty for it. This is one I am still working on; oh, how we love to guilt trip ourselves, right? I need to learn to forgive myself! What happened in the past is in the past. Accept it and move forward. You cannot out-exercise a bad diet; it just can’t happen. I will not take my mistakes out on myself at the gym! I will look forward instead. What’s my next healthy meal? When’s my next (practical) gym session? I will look forward, always, and not back!
What would your lists look like?
How many of these things do you actually have power over?
Are you actually more in control of things things than you thought?
What can you do to maintain control? How can you roll with the things you can’t?